The way we treat ourselves in difficult moments says a whole lot about who we are. It’s simple to be on top of the world when things are moving and we would like to hold on to this feeling hoping it will last forever. Yet when it doesn’t, it feels like we are bound to train tracks with an oncoming train headed our way and unable to move.
How we act towards ourselves in our darkest moment’s lays the foundation for who we become later on. Self-love is a difficult concept for many to grasp. I’ve had innumerable coaching sessions with people who find it tough to love and love themselves. They become entrenched into our mind and nervous system and, if reinforced, are difficult to give up. However, difficult does not mean impossible.
Is this something you’ve experienced? By way of instance, how can you treat yourself when things don’t go your way? When your significant other breaks up with you or your health or finances endure. What is your inner dialogue during these times? I have experienced pain and suffering during my life in the shape of losing my father to disease, a relationship break up, a health crisis and financial woes. There were times I found it hard to appreciate myself due to the despairing inner dialogue that convinced me it was my fault for being in this circumstance. I felt trapped, helpless and hopeless to navigate my way out.
This is why I wrote my first book because it was a theme I had been intimate with and new well. However, I recognised that being stuck in my circumstances wasn’t who I am. It wasn’t the narrative I wished to live, nor succumb to. I knew somewhere deep within me there was a presence yearning to express itself but I did not know how to get in touch with it. I wanted to love and nurture myself with compassion instead of negative self-talk. Gradually, I noticed my conditions started to shift and my inner dialogue changed when I started meditating. I was an anxious person then, but this changed to a calm and peaceful person over the coming years.
Breaking Down The Old And Tired Ways Of Living
The love within us awaits you to come home to it. It’s your palace of refuge, a place that knows no bounds, other than to get you in its arms and wake you to your authentic self. The self-love I speak of begins by recognising that difficult moments do not last. To love yourself through difficult times when there’s minimal growth requires you hope that what’s taking place is doing so to help you give up the ruins of the past. It’s breaking down the tired and old methods of living a new base of love and strength can emerge from the authentic self.
The spiritual teacher and writer Matt Kahn offers us the wisdom in his book What’s Here to Help You: A Loving Guide for Your Soul’s Evolution that love is more than an emotion but a wellspring of compassion that resides within us and our job is to bring it forth:”From a spiritual perspective, love isn’t an emotion we feel all the time. Love is an unwavering depth of compassion and compassion that reaches inward to adopt our experiences-no matter how mixed up, shut down, unfulfilled, or overwhelmed we are inclined to be. When rooted in the vibration of love, we don’t need to be totally treated to bring forth the kindness and care which already dwells within us.”
There is a source of love within you that beckons you to connect with it. Do not take my word for it since it appears on your display. Unite with this loving presence by standing in front of a mirror and reciting the words:”I love you” the minute you finish reading this report. Recite those three-letter words when you feel joy and happiness or when you are angry or depressed. Recite them as frequently as you can because you’re outside conditions do not have to dictate how you love yourself. The more you connect with this infinite presence, the greater it’ll be known throughout your lifetime. How we treat ourselves through hard times says a lot about who we are because who we are is an energy of love. If we make time to connect with this presence more frequently, we’ll realise that our difficulties serve a purpose; to return us to the wholeness of our true self.